Monday, November 24, 2008

Crista Carter: 'I love my work as an indie escort'

Crista Carter works as an escort in Scotland and got in touch with Madame Arcati following my postings on artist Sebastian Horsley who says he's visited over 1,000 prostitutes. She agreed to talk about her work.

Crista, sweetheart! You came into my awareness on one of the Sebastian Horsley postings. You told us you're an escort and that what you don't need is any caring for by the government. So tell us a bit about yourself ... you work in Scotland?

Yes, I have a full time "day" job and I am an Independent Escort mainly weekends. The two roles compliment themselves. I am paid for who and how I am with people and how I relate and communicate with people. I do research, deliver groups and counselling which is my main background where clients can express themselves in whatever way is possible to them. My escorting is when my body becomes the canvas. A conduit for sexual desires, needs and explorations. Both roles are caring and a privilege.

I cover Edinburgh and Dundee areas for escorting on an out call basis. So this means I go to my clients mainly hotels or my "punters'" homes. I am in a position to be the one that does the caring, so the concept of being cared for ... well I meet those personal needs in whichever way I choose that is separate from work needs.

So what's your view of the new proposed laws on prostitution? Useful or useless?

I personally believe as a sex worker, this industry is vast and most ladies similarly providing an independent service are appalled by human trafficking and those exploited through sex slavery. I have attended many conferences and debates around the exploitation of woman. I have also been pivotal in setting up women's groups where there have been gaps within service provisions. So basically I am open to explore ideas presented by this government.

However I am a strong believer that this Labour government is not entirely open about its part and its enabling of what has occured regarding the transportation of women from EU countries, East Timor and other places of conflict. The United Nations has been reluctant to name and shame those that initially started the ball rolling, yet it wants to name and shame "punters"!!

The UN Peace Keeping Forces are a power and a law unto themselves, so much so that some countries have been reluctant to have them accessing their countries in order to protect women from being exploited and for illegal arms to enter their countries due to the level of corruption in the UN: independent companies that work on the UN's behalf have falsified passports and allowed forced prostitution to happen.

The principle that is being put forward by our government serves who? As I have commented, the sex industry is a vast area and I certainly see the government can only want a piece of that pie! Who wouldn't? The industry revenue is vast. I've never been pimped out by anyone so I certainly wouldn't accept the government stepping in to "protect" me. They have been quite vocal about marginalising those that provide a much needed service in this country. Why would we trust them when they hold such uneducated, biased views!

Will the new laws make your life worse/better?

It's hard to answer this, we go to sleep and in the morning another new law has been introduced. I really don't know how the proposed changes will affect me to be honest. Being independent, escorting maybe unaffected. However I would find it very amusing if "the god squad" burst into the hotel room where I'm entertaining a client to find out if the sexual act is consensual and to ascertain who is exploiting who in whatever position they find us in! Ha ha. I am very frustrated about the effects this proposed law change would have on clients. My clients I hold a respect for: some are extraordinary, creative, intelligent, remarkable men. They have shaped who I am in a positive way.

[Home Secretary] Jacqui Smith is a ....

Fuckwit puppet that has no idea, compassion or understanding of the service I or other ladies similarly provide. Yes, one of those arse wipers that would probably have been defending the laws against same-sex relationships because purely, that was the law. No foresight or vision.

What did you make of Sebastian? Have you met his sort before?

Love him to bits, he is an escort's icon. He is art, and his body is also a conduit of it. He has an understanding of our industry and I find him creative and amusing. I received his book from a client last year as a belated birthday present. This industry is full off all sorts and everything; I love it. Yesterday I asked a few fellow escorts what they thought of Sebastian. Obviously they loved his nails, he's as nutty as me, type quotes. Sebastian is the first "punter" to speak out. Hopefully that may encourage other guys to talk. However this is a secret society by its very nature and some clients would never like that type of exposure or media attention. Their wives may be watching or their day jobs are high profile etc. The same appreciation is also applied to women or males that provide a sexual service.

I see you charge £150 an hour and £1,100 for an overnight stay. Do all your clients want sex - or is it a general service you offer eg companionship, conversation?

Good point and question to ask. My fee is what I am comfortable charging here in Scotland. It does vary. I do have a few London clients that are up here on business and will pay London prices. I don't change prices, so they will leave a tip. I generally will have met the client before with regards an overnight booking. Purely in case we don't click and have 12hrs in each others company!

Not all clients require a sexual service I'd say roughly 80% do. One client of mine is disabled - he served in the Army and was sexually active before his accident. He loved female company but struggles now psychologically with how he feels about himself and the world around him. Physically he struggles with erections but loves nakedness, touching and massage. He finds that an intimate enough connection. I have another client who writes and concentrates on erotica and enjoys reading and discussing art as we both wander around naked. Love his company, it's very liberating and he draws inspiration from our contact. I sometimes pose nude for another client.

Some guys just want oral stimulation so penetrative sex is off the menu. I don't have bookings where I will be in and out of a hotel room. Don't like the attention that draws to me at hotels as I am very discreet. So dinner dates at hotels are generally off my menu unless I'm touring.

What if the guy looks revolting?

Ha ha (nearly fell on my chair). Never really thought any guy I've had contact with as being revolting. Some are boring and lack communication/social skills. So I can wander off into thoughts of my shopping list or ponder what friends are doing etc. I'm trying to recall memories here. One guy was on the rather large size, not that it was revolting, just impossible to do cowgirl. What did revolt me I guess was his preoccupation with chocolate. Now I do love chocolate but for a two-hour booking all you heard was the rustling of chocolate wrappers and him eating - and kissing a Snickers-filled gob was a bit revolting. Tedious booking and very bland.

You said in your comment to Madame Arcati that you enjoyed your work ... would you say you're unusual in this or do many women enjoy what generally would be called prostitution?

No I wouldn't say it's unusual, the women I have regular contact with and close friends in this industry love their job. Take pride in their craft. Although sex can be great fun, it's also therapy for many. Brings clients out of loneliness and isolation

What of the dangers?

There are dangers in every job and you always have to assess risk, do security checks. An important port of call is not only your gut instinct but fellow escorts. There are lists of mobile numbers of dodgy clients, time wasters etc etc. Communication is key. A web resource called SAAFE is useful for women in this industry regarding safety issues. Someone always knows where I am and how long I'll be with a client.

Do you escort for women?

No I don't offer a service to women, purely because I do not feel bisexual and really don't want to be a fraud in a sense. I did agree to see a married couple once ... em, twice. It was great fun and another way for me to explore my sexuality. 450 quid for my pussy to be licked with two tongues sold the encounter to me, ha. The couple were fab. It was their story that caught my attention. They had two kids, 4yrs and 6yrs. The mother had battled cancer over the last few years and since she had been told the cancer was clear from her body, the couple were living each day as if it was their last. Something they had become accustomed to. They were living again as a family and they wanted to explore different things which included sex. So I really enjoyed my contact with them on their part of their journey.

I personally would like to see properly run Pleasuring Centres, run for taxable profit, staffed by salaried people trained in sexual technique, holistic massage, basic nursing and self-defence karate. The PCs would be for everyone with all manner of sex worker with different interests. They could be government run or whatever. These wouldn't replace private escorts, but might help to dispel all the stigma associated with prostitution. PCs would have armed security staff. What do you think?

Just wouldn't like to see what we facilitate as becoming clinically governed. There are many parlours with ladies fully qualified in the areas you have suggested. There are soooo many well run facilities, yet there are places that are the pits. It can be very difficult to get a sense of a lady as an individual in some parlours who have half hour quicky bookings. It can be like a conveyor belt for some, but ladies can earn just as much money as an Independent escort. I know some wonderful parlour owners and ladies that don't receive enough credit for what they do. Everyone I know pays tax already and lots of it. "Therapist" is the usual name given to the tax man for what we provide.

There are sexual services that are run in the way you describe that I or you wouldn't know about because it is the underbelly of the industry that is controlled by unscrupulous bastards. Where tax isn't payed and women are objectified. It's so sad. There is no place for armed security in our industry! However I see its purpose for those that are hiding exploitation and those that are knowingly using this type of service.

Good sex is ....

Available to everyone at the moment. It's whatever you want it to be. Good sex is liberating.

Tell us about one client ....

Em ... In January I saw a boxer and we found some middle ground talking about Yoga. It was a 3hr hotel booking. It was the most exhausting service I've provided and wish I'd never mentioned yoga!. Almost 3hrs hard at it. Now I understand what the wheelbarrow position is. At one point I was in a handstand ffs. I have a good laugh about it now and have been the butt of many escort friends' jokes. This is due to the hamstring injury I received. A few months of physiotherapy. He was a hell of a sexy guy though. I almost collapsed at the water machine dehydrated and delirious post-session.

Are you in a relationship?

Relationships are difficult - try to get a guy to appreciate and understand what we do is like finding a needle in a haystack. I'm honest if the relationship is important and you are getting to know each other more intimately. I don't believe in fuck-buddies, the whole concept makes me feel ill. So my sexual needs do also get met through bookings. Failing that there are toys. I am in a long-distance relationship and he knows what I do. He takes nothing to do with my escort business. If it did get more serious I'd throw in the towel.

One previous relationship where I was open and honest, as was he, worked for a bit. It was so easy to identify when it wasn't working as I wanted to charge him for his time. He was beginning to feel like a client so I ended the relationship swiftly.

Tell me about Somerset Maugham, I see on your site you're reading him. He was a bit of a goer ...

Yes he was, and really fascinated in the concept of "double lives", I can relate to that. I also wonder what it was like for him being gay in his era. Not that long ago, but interested in his writing and the various influences around for him. The whole secret agent espionage thing is intriguingly seductive. I do love reading and working my way through his short stories when I have the time.

Crista! Thank you so much for your time. We must have tea next time I'm north of the border.

You would be more than welcome. Thank you for taking the time to show an interest in escorting and compiling your questions for me. Would love you to join me for tea ... and crumpet lol x

Crista's website

1 comment:

The English Courtesan said...

Hilarious reading and inspired writing! Thank you for introducing me to Madame Arcati Crista - I have a feeling this is going to be fun... ;-)

Livvy xxx