Kevin Spacey's former sister-in-law, Stephanie, has responded again to various comments - here she eloquently describes the trauma associated with sexual abuse, pertinent to Kevin's brother Randy Fowler who was raped repeatedly by his father. Both Randy and Stephanie feel that Kevin should join his name with theirs in raising awareness of sexual abuse of all forms in order to help disinhibit victims from reporting the crime to the police and authorities.
First a response to Fanny Hill..you profess that I shoudn't air my dirty laundry, yet the name Fanny Hill is synonymous with her memoirs of "pleasure"...she "aired out" more than her dirty laundry. No, this isn't a "pleasurable" subject, but someone needs to speak out. It's not going to go away...especially on the internet.
Paedophilia, rape, abuse of any kind is not an enjoyable topic to discuss but it has only been of late that women and men are getting on the bandwagon and telling their story.
Do you have any idea what a woman has to go through just to report a rape (or man, whether gay or heterosexual?}. Victims hide the truth because of fear that they might have instigated or enticed the act.. while their life is being scutinized and torn apart...they are told they shouldn't speak out because of anything in their past..what? How does that relate to the act itself?
But the laws don't protect the victims! Is it to break them down and get more white collar crimes on the court docket? SO MANY VICTIMS OF ABUSE are encouraged by the law to "let it go". Oh, you let your neighbor in didn't you? Yes, but, how could they know his intention was rape while their daughter lay sleeping in the next room? Would you scream and have your child witness possibly be involved also? But "you let him in", so it's your fault.
These stories go on everyday and destroy families. The laws should be changed. There are men out there that are abused by women and embarrassed to come forward ..YES, it is horrible and we shove it under the carpet. Sweep it all away..and you wonder why there are so many drug companies making a fortune on anti-depressants.
If I had been raped by my father [as was my ex-husband Randy Fowler], I would have been scared to death to tell anyone, because he was a well-known community man. I have seen it happen so many times. So, no, I am not going to stop. I will stop when I see some money being raised for the victims who can't afford to go to court and nail these SOB's. It all trickles down if it is not stopped or talked about..that is why we need more public awareness of this pervasive problem. Victims should not be put through more abuse because they were brave enough to come forward.
This is Randy's purpose, and since we did open up "pandora's box" than let's see how we can fill it up...my wish is an outpouring of celebrities to raise awareness and funds for programs. That is why I came "out"...
Kevin has washed his hands of this forum. I can see a world-wide awareness campaign and Kevin you CAN help your brother get the word out without revealing your personal life, if that is what you are worried about..ignorance is not bliss...Randy has not been quixotic...he IS addressing his past for practical reasons ... and maybe Kevin might not like Randy, but does he like the knowledge that Randy hid his malteatment and many suffered because of it?
By not addressing his brother for years he has been holding the key that could unlock the fear of others to speak out.